Okay, you just lost your job. Maybe you got laid off or maybe you got fired. Either way I’ll bet it feels the same. They didn’t want you or your skills. It sucks.
Unfortunately, most of us need a rock bottom in order to effect a change in our behavior. Life sometimes raises our conscious. It shoves us out of our old way of thinking. Pushes us toward a new way of behaving. That’s how most of us begin learning difficult life lessons.
I’m not a new age guy. I don’t believe wishing or positive thinking will make it so.
However I do believe we can learn new behaviors. If we see the need for them. If we learn how to go about practicing them. If we engage is really smart practice, we can acquire them.
Let’s get back to you. You got laid off. After the shock has worn off, the real question is what you can take away from this. What you can learn about yourself.
Mostly we don’t learn much when things are going really well in our lives. I know it sucks but we need the bad times to grow. They pierce through our smug complacency. They make us teachable.
But usually we absorb the wrong lessons. Our self-talk lashes us with amazing lists of personal defects. Apparently, that little voice thinks that if only you were prefect, you would be in control.
Or conversely it blames the others for all your problems. You’re the victim here. If only they behaved better you still be on top and in control.
The fact is that mostly everything is out of our control. People, places and things are not within our reach. Certainty is a myth. That realization, when it hits us, is the good news.