Most of us are quite good at recognizing error. And if we happen the miss one, there is usually someone willing to step in and point it out to us.
Error, ours or if we are attentive those of others, is how we learn. (I’ve never learned much from success, but I’ve managed some great lessons from my screw-ups.)
The problem arises how we react to those mistakes. If the first reaction is denial, “It wasn’t my fault. If they had only done this the whole thing wouldn’t have happened”
Or secondly and probably most damaging is to accept blame and shame. Face it, most have a skewed perception that we need to be perfect in all things, anything less is not acceptable.
Self-blame is a great way to self-punish but a crappy way to learn.
I like Dr. Beverly Potter’s suggestion. She says in her book, “The Way of the Ronin”, that we adopt the “next time rule”.
“Boy that was dumb. What should I have done?. Next time I’ll do it differently.” (And if I’m really centered, I’ll usually laugh at myself as well).
All it takes is the mental toughness to accept the fact that you are a work in progress no matter whether you’re nine or ninety.